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Seems like Oprah's got the whole US lit up about teenage girls and masturbation. I, for one, am happy to hear some frank talk about this really great life skill.  http://www.oprah.com/dated/oprahshow/oprahshow-20090326-sex-talk

When girls know how their own body works and have learned how to "take care of business" on their own, they are in a much better position to handle their own sexuality and, quite possibly, sexual relationships.

Remember, one of the goals in talking to our kids should be that they have a good understanding of how wonderful being sexual, either alone, or with a partner can be. Masturbation can be a big part of the early learning phase.

As you know, little kids will stick their hands down their pants and get busy whenever and wherever - they don't care, because it just feels good to touch their penis or vulva. Once they get older, fantasy makes the scene and kids begin to masturbate and have sexualized feelings and experiences (ideally in their minds only!).

I was a bit confused about all the masturbation shock and awe in the audience - are we still supposed to pretend girls don't do this? Is it still considered bad or unhealthy? I know the answer to these questions and you probably do too.

The big question is how do we get over ourselves to allow girls to explore their bodies without feeling ashamed or embarassed?

Girls who understand their own sexual response are less likely to rely on another person for their sexual gratification. Perhaps if they know they can do it themselves they will be less likely to engage in risky sexual behavior because it feels so good.