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Her book, Sex and Sensibility is a good, if a little difficult read, on my favorite topic!
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Finally, after a year and a half or maybe even two years, I am so delighted to let all three of you know that my books are out! If you order on line, you can get 16 free gifts if you put this code - BBK GIFTS - in the comment section of the shopping cart. This is my thanks to you for being one of the first to buy the book! www.birdsandbeesandkids.com/books.html
Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide to Sharing Your Beliefs about Sexuality, Love and Relationships
You know you need to talk to your kids about sex, but don't know where to start. This is the place. When you clarify your values and beliefs about sexuality, love and relationships, you will have the solid foundation you want and need to talk to your kids about this important part of life.
The exercises are short, easy to understand and leave you feeling confident and inspired to talk to your kids. No other book will prepare you for the "sex talk" like this one.
The Ask ANYTHING Journal - Because an honest question deserves and honest answer
This journal is just what your kids need to find out anything they want to know about life, love, bodies, relationships, sex, drugs, friendships, spirituality, death and anything in between. They write down their question, hand the journal off to you and you write a response. Fewer embarrassing face-to-face conversations about embarrassing stuff. www.birdsandbeesandkids.com/books.html
Researchers were beginning to see some leveling off of the drop in teen birth rates a couple of years ago and now we have the numbers from the Centers for Disease Control and they aren’t pretty.
Birth rates for teens aged 15 to 19 rose by 3.5 percent in 2006. This is the largest growth in US teen birth rates in almost 20 years.
What happened? Well, it could be that our government spent $176 million dollars on abstinence only programs that have little positive long term impact on teen sexual behavior. Or maybe seeing stars like Brittany Spears and her sister have babies at very young ages makes teens think being pregnant and having a baby is easy and fun.
Or maybe because they didn’t watch this amazing video at The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned pregnancy – Too Young
Time for me to get to work!I sure do! It was passed around from girlfriend to girlfriend when I was in Junior High. To refresh your memory, this is the story of a teenaged couple and their mutual deflowering.
As it turns out, this was a groundbreaking book. For the first time, a “first time” was thoughtfully portrayed in adolescent literature. Katherine and Michael are in love and ready for sex.
What sets this book apart is how Katherine thoughtfully approaches her first time, confiding in her mother, getting birth control and making love in a safe place. Michael does not pressure her into her decision, they decide together.
It provides an example of how to have a great first experience and clearly includes all the things I think make up a great first time.
Here’s the link to Amazon – pick up a copy for your favorite teen. But read it again yourself before you pass it along. http://tinyurl.com/foreverjb
The thing that is on my mind is Bristol Palin. I can’t get her out of my head. Actually, I can’t get what she represents out of my head. To me, she represents exactly what is wrong with “Abstinence Only” “sex education”.
“Abstinence Only” is touted as the “best” sex education for kids and the problem is that this just is not true. There is no evidence this kind of “education” has lasting impact (1).
Kids who go through these programs have the same age of sexual debut, the same number of partners, and the same condom use rates. (2)
Same, same, same is not best.
Good sex education is about the long run – kids don’t start out having sex, they work up to it. Most kids have sex for the first time at about 16 or 17. This is plenty of time to make sure they are prepared to protect themselves from pregnancy, STDs and HIV.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe kids need and want a strong message of abstinence or postponement from their parents and from our culture. Our values are what are kids need to hear from us, so they can develop their own.
And if kids don't have parents who are able to do this important job, our government should be helping these kids get what they need so they wait to have sex and then do it safely.
But expecting teenagers to abstain from sex until they are married is foolishness. 95% of Americans have sex before they get married (3). That’s pretty much everyone.
So, when I see pregnant Bristol Palin up there with her mom, I think we are looking at our future under a McCain/Palin Presidency, because these two think “Abstinence Only” is the way to go. They think it’s best.
How nice to have it spelled out.
My pal Kristen just celebrated her birthday. Her sweet husband organized a surprise pirate themed party and everything went off without a hitch! There were many Pirate-y grownups and no kids.
I spent the hour or so I was there talking about The Strangers' Hump Festival and the evils of pornography. For the uninitiated, The Hump Festival is an amateur porn film festival - the thought of which both cracks me up and grosses me out.
The two Pirates I was talking to were both unopposed to pornography and they were interested to hear my views and have a chat about it, and their idea for a Hump Festival film involving dogs, but not in a bad way.
I guess I just got to thinking about my porn stance - what do I really believe? Is it inherently evil? Does it provide something good in the world?
I wouldn't censor it, but I don't watch it. I don't think, ultimately, it's good for anyone. It's confusing for kids to see (even teenagers - remember, their brains aren't quite finished developing) and as always, inappropriate for kids to see.
I think the one point I made that hit home, was that the porn of today, is not the porn of our youth. Playboy Magazine and the internet are two vastly different media. The vast difference being you can go from an image of a naked woman to very hard core porn in minutes.
In fact, I just went and looked at some on line. Just Google “naked women” and see what you get. Scary stuff.
I need to go wash my hands and maybe you need to figure out what you believe about porn. Go visit www.theporntalk.com they can help.
If your child is in elementary school, there is an excellent chance she will have an answer for you.
Even if you haven’t explained what sex actually is.
Those young ‘uns talk to each other, you know. And the ones that aren’t talking are listening.
And perhaps you had your own answer to this question before you were filled in about the actual-factual details. What had you heard or made up?
Let me know what you learn – I love these stories and just as soon as I get permission from the Mama who told me her story about what her son made up, I’ll fill you in.
I’m finishing up my first draft of my Guidebook for parents and have been working on the tedious task of putting together my reference list.
Last week, I was spending time at the Kaiser Family Foundation website reading up on TV and kids. They have done several studies on media and kids and it was very interesting to learn just how TV is impacting our kids.
Get a load of this - Kaiser's Vicki Rideout said: "What we found is that, overall, when you turn on the TV today, whatever time of day it is, whatever kind of show you're watching, the odds are about 1 out of 2 that it'll be a show with some kind of sexual content, and in the most watched shows, those on prime time, about 2 out of 3 shows have sexual content.
But the thing about it is, that very few of those shows, less than 1 out of 10 in fact, include any reference to what we might call safer sex type issues, a condom on a bedside table, a character who decides to postpone having sex, or some reference to the possible risks of unprotected sex." I cut this from here: http://www.kaisernetwork.org/reports/1999/02/kr990209.3.html
That’s a lot of sex on TV! There was also a recent report that found that kids who watch unsupervised TV in any amount, have sex about one year sooner than kids who watch supervised TV.
This isn’t all that surprising, considering those kids who watch unsupervised TV probably have a lot of unsupervised time in general. And as you may recall, unsupervised time is a great time to have sex!
So now that you know about all the sex on TV? What is your plan? Will you let your kids watch any TV, any time? Let me know.
I was wondering where he stood on sex education and now I know! He's all for kids having medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality edcuation from an early age. Ahhh...reason.
Read more here...
http://www.siecus.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=Feature.showFeature&CategoryID=34&FeatureID=1149
